• 1st September
    2013
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  • 14th August
    2013
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so frustrated with life right now.

it dawned on me tonight that, after having contacted both holt and kas, both of them actually told me the same thing: there’s not enough information in my file to initiate a search.  so, i guess that’s that.  

i’m so tired of feeling completely powerless.  i’m sure there’s something i’m missing, or some piece of the puzzle i could find if i dig hard enough or pester enough people or search the right places or talk to the right organizations, but i shouldn’t have to do that, when it’s my own birth records for which i’m searching.  i shouldn’t have to feel suspicious of and analyze every piece of information or non-information i get.

i shouldn’t have to do any of this because this is MY OWN LIFE i’m trying to access.  i shouldn’t have to jump through hoops or spend thousands of dollars on a plane trip across the country or go through multiple avenues to get a truthful account of my own goddamn life.  it’s outrageous that this is the reality for so many adoptees, that pieces of our own lives are kept from us by people who couldn’t care less about us.  

ugh.  

  • 13th August
    2013
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Hi, I’m back

Doing a focus group on Thursday about international and domestic adoptees and our inability to access our genetic and family health history.  Anyone have any thoughts about this?  

  • 13th August
    2013
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The politics of being friends with white people - Salon.com

peaceshannon:

"When you are 9, or 12, or 17, it is easy to overlook racist comments. That your friends’ dad does not like black people has little to do with what your friend thinks, right?…With age, these things start to matter. At 25 or 32, it is harder to overlook the inevitable racially ignorant comment that will come, especially when you have had access to friendships where this is never an issue…

Several years ago, I had the opportunity to attend the wedding reception of two of my old debate teammates, who were getting married. I went with another teammate, also black. When we arrived, we were shocked to discover that among a gathering of probably 75 people, we were the couple’s only black friends. And it had been years since we had spoken to them.

This is why the Reuters poll is unsurprising. I have always been skeptical of white people who claim that “one of my best friends is black.” Internally my response has always been, “They may be your friend, but are you their friend?”

I believe deeply in the power of friendship to make us better human beings. But interracial friendships, especially in adulthood, require a level of risk and vulnerability that many of us would rather simply not deal with.”

  • 30th July
    2013
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  • 29th July
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  • 28th July
    2013
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Rape jokes are not jokes. Woman-hating jokes are not jokes. These guys are telling you what they think. When you laugh along to get their approval, you give them yours.
Thomas Millar, Meet the Predators (via uoa)

(Source: notana, via stfueverything)

  • 28th July
    2013
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subconciousevolution:

Percentage of Unsafe Abortions On The Rise Worldwide
Almost half of all abortions performed globally are done so without trained clinical assistance. That’s according to anew study by the World Health Organization.
Overall abortion rates dropped between 1995 and 2003, then remained steady at 28 per 1,000 women a year through 2008. But the proportion of unsafe abortions rose significantly from 44 percent in 1995 to 49 percent in 2008. Unsafe abortion is one of the main contributors to maternal death and includes procedures outside hospitals, clinics and surgeries, or without qualified medical supervision.
Unsafe abortions are especially common in developing countries, particularly those countries with more restrictive abortion laws. In Africa, for example, 97 percent of the abortions performed are considered unsafe, compared to 95 percent in Latin America, 40 percent in Asia and 9 percent in Europe.
The WHO also found that countries with restrictive abortion laws did not have any corresponding decrease in the number of abortions performed. In fact, usually the opposite was true, proving yet again that criminalizing abortion does not end abortion, it just unnecessarily risks women’s lives.
Most disturbing from the report is the inescapable conclusion that the progress made during the 1990s in making abortions safer has not just stalled, it has reversed. Setting policy that stigmatizes women and criminalizes the need to end a pregnancy is nothing short of a complete failure of public health policy.
Family planning saves lives, especially in the developing world. Whether it is legal or illegal, women will seek and obtain abortions because abortions are a fundamental component of women’s health care. It’s time we recognize it as such.
Read the Article Here.

subconciousevolution:

Percentage of Unsafe Abortions On The Rise Worldwide

Almost half of all abortions performed globally are done so without trained clinical assistance. That’s according to anew study by the World Health Organization.

Overall abortion rates dropped between 1995 and 2003, then remained steady at 28 per 1,000 women a year through 2008. But the proportion of unsafe abortions rose significantly from 44 percent in 1995 to 49 percent in 2008. Unsafe abortion is one of the main contributors to maternal death and includes procedures outside hospitals, clinics and surgeries, or without qualified medical supervision.

Unsafe abortions are especially common in developing countries, particularly those countries with more restrictive abortion laws. In Africa, for example, 97 percent of the abortions performed are considered unsafe, compared to 95 percent in Latin America, 40 percent in Asia and 9 percent in Europe.

The WHO also found that countries with restrictive abortion laws did not have any corresponding decrease in the number of abortions performed. In fact, usually the opposite was true, proving yet again that criminalizing abortion does not end abortion, it just unnecessarily risks women’s lives.

Most disturbing from the report is the inescapable conclusion that the progress made during the 1990s in making abortions safer has not just stalled, it has reversed. Setting policy that stigmatizes women and criminalizes the need to end a pregnancy is nothing short of a complete failure of public health policy.

Family planning saves lives, especially in the developing world. Whether it is legal or illegal, women will seek and obtain abortions because abortions are a fundamental component of women’s health care. It’s time we recognize it as such.

Read the Article Here.

(via stfueverything)

  • 27th July
    2013
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it’s my tumblr birthday, apparently.  that means it’s been almost exactly one year since i first started chipping away at my picture perfect views on adoption.  i’ve come a long, long way in a year, and i have a lot of you lovely tumblr folks to thank, in part, for that.

it’s my tumblr birthday, apparently.  that means it’s been almost exactly one year since i first started chipping away at my picture perfect views on adoption.  i’ve come a long, long way in a year, and i have a lot of you lovely tumblr folks to thank, in part, for that.

(Source: assets)

  • 26th July
    2013
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castielinablanket:

I just want Tumblr to know that I have never, not once, wanted to reblog a text post as a link.

OMG THIS. it’s so frustrating to browse tumblr on my phone, cuz i know anything i reblog will be a link. BLARG. 

(via cotton-ee)

  • 25th July
    2013
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    2013
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Help KUMFA win ad space!

peaceshannon:

KUMFA has entered a competition called <For a brighter future> for newspaper advertising space in the Chosun Ilbo’s Public Interest section. The deadline is tomorrow so the application was filled out in a hurry and could use some improvement, but we are still giving it a try. The first round of the competition is based on the number of “Likes” - the top five organizations that get the most “Likes” on their photo will move on to the second round. The second round will be judged by the organizations’ sincerity of mission and their ad’s publishing appeal. Please help KUMFA by CLICKING the link and liking the photo!! (not this post) reblogs also appreciated!!

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  • 25th July
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